#18 Barry Lynch: Discover What You Want. You Are Capable of More Than You May Think

[0:00] thank you so much for accepting my
[0:01] request for this interview to the
[0:04] audience uh please share what you do and
[0:07] how they can reach out to you
[0:10] yeah so um
[0:12] i am
[0:13] a mindset coach
[0:14] predominantly develop or deal with
[0:18] paradigms and of course paradigms are
[0:20] our habitual behaviors or almost all our
[0:22] behaviors are habitual
[0:24] and we find that i suppose when it comes
[0:26] to mindset it affects many different
[0:29] people in many different ways
[0:31] so i i would normally say that look i i
[0:34] deal with mainly business people but in
[0:37] fact paradigms affect
[0:38] all types of people in in every way not
[0:41] just business people
[0:43] however my my
[0:45] preferred client or the clients i i
[0:47] attract are predominantly uh business
[0:50] orientated people so people that are in
[0:52] a business or people that want to get
[0:55] into involved in a business and need to
[0:57] create
[0:58] the habits and know how of how to do
[1:00] that okay thank you for
[1:03] um thank you for that information who
[1:05] could who can reach out to you uh do you
[1:08] work with companies or do you work with
[1:09] individuals
[1:11] and i've worked with both and
[1:14] again um when when it's a company it
[1:17] tends to be a group of people so the
[1:19] company wants to expand a division
[1:22] um or a particular area of their
[1:24] business when it comes to an individual
[1:27] it tends to be personal and professional
[1:30] so i suppose when you look at you know
[1:32] most people want some form of personal
[1:34] growth
[1:35] and but also from a professional point
[1:37] of view
[1:38] in most cases we find though
[1:40] that people approach me based on it
[1:42] being professional and then establish
[1:44] that it's actually a lot of personal
[1:46] stuff that's going on stopping them from
[1:48] the growth
[1:50] that does make sense because ultimately
[1:53] [Music]
[1:55] your professional life and personal life
[1:57] we treat it different
[1:59] but there is so much spillover between
[2:02] the two and especially working at home
[2:06] it messes up everything
[2:08] or
[2:09] enhance everything
[2:10] and anybody who have this personal
[2:12] aspiration
[2:15] um they
[2:16] they're very good with the the work
[2:18] because they get the structure but their
[2:20] personal aspiration or side side project
[2:22] they're not that good with them so
[2:25] uh it does make sense that it's all over
[2:28] from professional to personal
[2:30] yeah because what we find is that if an
[2:33] individual wants to grow so let's take
[2:35] an example where somebody wants to earn
[2:38] maybe a couple hundred thousand a year
[2:40] and they're only earning fifty thousand
[2:42] a year or maybe it's somebody that's
[2:43] earning five hundred thousand but they
[2:45] wanna earn a million a year and they
[2:47] can't find uh the how or the gap they
[2:50] can't find the reason why they're stuck
[2:52] effectively and this creates a big
[2:54] challenge but one of the the main areas
[2:56] surrounding it is actually their
[2:58] self-image
[2:59] they might be confident
[3:01] and competent enough to be able to reach
[3:04] that goal but they may find that because
[3:06] of their self-image their beliefs their
[3:08] behaviors maybe how they grew up what
[3:10] they inherited from their ancestors
[3:12] that's what tends to hold them back and
[3:14] when when you establish that with
[3:15] somebody and you get them on the
[3:17] frequency of what they want and not what
[3:20] they need well then you can help them
[3:22] grow
[3:24] one other thing that we have to break is
[3:26] to look for other people aspiration
[3:29] you have to get the inspiration from
[3:31] inside you have to feel ready so that
[3:33] other people can
[3:35] trust you versus we typically look at
[3:37] other people and we ask hey i wanted to
[3:41] become a manager or i want to become
[3:43] this and then based on how other people
[3:45] are responding your your confidence they
[3:48] will go in up and down
[3:50] because um you're looking for the
[3:52] aspiration outside not not inside
[3:57] yeah so again when we talk about our
[3:59] self-image
[4:00] uh everything that's going on in the
[4:02] outside world is a direct reflection of
[4:04] what's going on internally with that
[4:06] person
[4:07] so
[4:08] as i said if they want to grow or they
[4:10] want to develop or they want to you know
[4:11] get a new job or they want to create
[4:13] income they say they're going to do it
[4:16] and they almost decide they're going to
[4:17] do it but then they give up on doing it
[4:19] so something happens and a month passes
[4:21] by three months six months a year and
[4:23] then they realize they never reached a
[4:24] goal and that is down to the self-image
[4:27] and and sometimes that can be
[4:30] damaging in some ways because it can
[4:32] affect your confidence
[4:34] so when you tell yourself you're going
[4:36] to do something and you tend not to
[4:38] follow true and get the results well now
[4:41] you don't feel confident in your own
[4:42] ability and it starts to chip away
[4:45] so then it's almost like the second
[4:46] person talking to yourself in your head
[4:49] and that affects you but when you show
[4:51] people how to develop the skill of
[4:54] avoiding that and show them how to uh
[4:57] get on the frequency of what they want
[4:59] well then you can open up a whole
[5:02] variety of
[5:04] growth with inside somebody
[5:08] that sounds very powerful
[5:12] it is i trust me it is that's something
[5:14] i've learned many years ago
[5:16] how can people reach out to you and do
[5:18] you want to share your pricing how much
[5:21] it cost them to get your services
[5:25] yeah so uh there's a couple of options
[5:27] one is
[5:30] you know
[5:30] v-a-r-y-l-n-c-h-s
[5:32] alternatively jump onto barry lynch.com
[5:36] um and just send me a
[5:39] an email through that
[5:41] or on the autorespond connect on it and
[5:44] uh from a cost point of view uh we have
[5:47] a a set program and that's done over six
[5:50] months so we can do over three months
[5:52] uh they range from uh three thousand
[5:55] eight hundred dollars up to six thousand
[5:56] two hundred and fifty dollars but it
[5:58] really depends on the the end of it the
[6:00] pricings are set but it depends on the
[6:02] individual of what we need to work with
[6:05] so we we adapt that in a free call we
[6:07] offer a free call to anybody that just
[6:08] wants to
[6:09] share get get an open mind to what how
[6:12] they what they can do and what they can
[6:13] achieve
[6:15] okay and i will add all these hyperlink
[6:17] in the
[6:18] show description and
[6:21] in the footnote so i will add that so
[6:23] again thank you so much for offering all
[6:25] these services now we jump into what you
[6:28] wanted to become when you was in high
[6:30] school
[6:32] so when i was younger i always had a
[6:34] passion and desire to be wealthy i
[6:38] always had a passion desire to be in
[6:39] business to create some sort of wealth i
[6:42] have no idea why but it seemed to me
[6:44] that that was the shiny object to me
[6:46] and i suppose when i started in business
[6:48] when i was 18
[6:50] and i originally started with a cleaning
[6:52] business
[6:54] and i built that up quite successfully
[6:57] um and that allowed me to adapt many
[7:01] different things
[7:02] at that age and that i suppose a lot of
[7:05] people didn't have um which was cars and
[7:08] you know jewelry and nice holidays and
[7:11] so i i seem to
[7:13] develop that passion and desire for
[7:15] being in business i loved the label of
[7:18] being a businessman
[7:20] and that's what what helped me grow
[7:21] throughout my years and i i always said
[7:24] you know i was going to be
[7:26] a millionaire when i was by the time i
[7:28] was 40. and it was which was great but
[7:31] it didn't feel like that i suppose when
[7:33] when i first got into business because
[7:35] you know it's it's it's a tough road
[7:38] when you try to do it on your own and
[7:40] that was the problem i tried to do
[7:41] everything on my own without asking for
[7:43] advice
[7:46] so 18 year old so
[7:49] does that mean you didn't go for your
[7:51] bachelor master degree you you started
[7:53] business directly
[7:55] left school quite early and decided to
[7:58] go into business
[8:00] and set up my business and then realized
[8:02] i didn't need to go back to do any more
[8:04] and my my learning didn't stop though
[8:07] and my learning uh
[8:10] transpired into business orientated so
[8:13] um bob proctor
[8:15] um brian tracy jim rohn
[8:18] tony robbins all these people i learned
[8:21] you know cds tapes i used to drive
[8:24] around with cassette tape in my vehicle
[8:25] listening to them over and over again
[8:27] napoleon hill think and grow rich earl
[8:29] nightingale
[8:32] on your linkedin i saw you're a big fan
[8:35] of bob proctor you shared a lot of
[8:37] hyperlink from his videos
[8:39] yes
[8:41] yes i've been connected with bob now for
[8:44] over three and a half years and
[8:47] unfortunately he passed away last week
[8:49] which was a big loss and but his legacy
[8:52] will continue and because the
[8:54] information
[8:56] that i've learned from bob
[8:58] changed my life forever
[9:01] so i was quite successful i started the
[9:03] business when i was 18. i listened to
[9:06] some of bob many years ago and as well
[9:09] as many others but when i became to
[9:11] roughly around my mid-40s
[9:14] and i had i suppose i felt reached the
[9:17] pinnacle of my career you know i had a
[9:20] successful business i had everything i
[9:22] ever wanted and i didn't really want for
[9:25] anything but i think that got too much
[9:28] and it all sort of felt like it was
[9:31] falling apart around me and there are
[9:33] lots of different things happened i was
[9:35] probably getting too confident for my my
[9:37] own boots and i ended up with court
[9:40] cases you know four high court actions
[9:43] and
[9:44] and i i thought that this was the way
[9:46] business was you know someone soon you
[9:48] sue them someone else says you used to
[9:49] them and it was getting it was getting
[9:52] to a stage where
[9:53] i was getting
[9:55] everyone enjoyed anymore and it wasn't a
[9:59] good place to be i wasn't in a good
[10:00] place it affected many things in my life
[10:04] and
[10:05] um i managed to
[10:07] reach out to bob proctor and i did some
[10:10] training with with bob and it literally
[10:13] changed my life forever i was able to
[10:16] scale my business from where it was the
[10:18] next level but become happy and healthy
[10:21] as well whereas before before that i
[10:23] wasn't happy or healthy i was working
[10:25] you know 80 and 20 hours a day whereas
[10:27] now i work a lot less and i'm a lot more
[10:30] happier and a lot more healthier in the
[10:32] process
[10:34] i was i wanted to ask if you met with
[10:36] him but seems like you did as you did
[10:38] training with him
[10:40] i did indeed i met i met bob several
[10:43] times
[10:44] um over the past before the pandemic and
[10:48] i think it was four times actually i met
[10:50] him um but one of the times i clearly
[10:53] remember uh which was another
[10:55] life-changing experience for me and i
[10:58] was in his home and we had had lunch
[11:00] and now not just me it was there was a
[11:03] group of people we were
[11:05] invited to his home and his studio to
[11:07] have lunch and
[11:09] i had asked him a question and i had
[11:12] said
[11:13] bob do you mind me asking you you know
[11:14] how do you develop your intuition
[11:17] um because bob was the type of
[11:19] individual you could stand and talk to
[11:20] him and he could read you he could read
[11:22] your energy and he could tell
[11:24] what you were thinking he could tell you
[11:26] know if you had a problem he could tell
[11:28] and and i was i was really intrigued by
[11:30] this so i asked him and he what he had
[11:32] said to me was um barry he says you're
[11:35] very sensitive
[11:36] and i went okay thanks and that was it
[11:39] that's all he said and
[11:41] i went off for about an hour trying to
[11:42] figure out what did he mean by i was
[11:44] very sensitive
[11:45] because when i was growing up everybody
[11:48] told me i was sensitive but i understood
[11:50] sensitive was in i was angry because i
[11:53] wasn't an angry person
[11:55] so i i was
[11:57] completely confused so i decided to go
[11:59] back to him and about an hour later i
[12:01] walked back over and said i'm sorry i'm
[12:03] gonna have to ask you this again i said
[12:04] you tell me i'm very sensitive can you
[12:06] please tell me and he goes listen to
[12:08] yourself barry listen to yourself and
[12:11] that was it that's all he said
[12:13] so i'm back to the hotel room and got on
[12:15] the bus back to the hotel room and i sat
[12:17] in the hotel room i'd say for about
[12:19] three or four hours trying to you know
[12:21] his words going into my head listen to
[12:23] yourself listen to yourself you're a
[12:25] very sensitive listener and then a light
[12:27] bulb went on and i realized
[12:29] all my life i had been picking up
[12:32] energy from other people but not knowing
[12:34] that's what it was
[12:36] so when when i'm surrounded with people
[12:39] or when i'm with somebody i can almost
[12:42] pick up their energy
[12:45] and i realize that the more you start to
[12:48] listen to it
[12:49] the more you feel it the more you pick
[12:52] it up
[12:53] and that had answered a lot of questions
[12:56] for me because
[12:58] when i was with say a relationship or
[13:00] when i was with an employee
[13:02] you know it was when i was with them it
[13:03] was all about what i wanted you know you
[13:05] better start doing this and if you don't
[13:07] start doing this you're gonna get you're
[13:08] gonna fire you get fired but then i
[13:10] start listening to what they wanted well
[13:13] when when i listen to them i'm watching
[13:15] them and picking up whether they're
[13:16] telling me the truth or whether i
[13:18] genuinely want to you know move on or
[13:20] not
[13:22] because of that it made my communication
[13:24] skills more effective
[13:26] and this is why i find now that i'm very
[13:28] good with clients because i'm not just
[13:32] taking the services from them to get
[13:34] paid and genuinely helping them
[13:36] to better themselves or improve and as a
[13:39] result of bob and what he had shared
[13:42] with me and that life-changing moment as
[13:44] well as the other information i learned
[13:46] so i felt a connection with him and from
[13:48] that day to this you know i admired him
[13:53] this is
[13:55] this is what i like about this
[13:57] discussion with each person that i talk
[13:59] to something from their life comes up
[14:02] and
[14:03] just hearing the energy hearing the
[14:06] sound of your
[14:07] voice hearing the passion behind it
[14:10] it's amazed me
[14:12] okay thank you very much this is one of
[14:14] the life-changing moments for you so
[14:16] amazing
[14:18] well i think it's in everybody that's
[14:19] the difference it's like you know when i
[14:22] talk to people i ask them what is it you
[14:24] want
[14:25] and if somebody hasn't got a desire or
[14:27] passion to want something well that's
[14:30] sometimes can be just down to their they
[14:32] just don't have never asked themselves
[14:33] what they want
[14:35] so when i speak to somebody and i do a
[14:36] 15-minute call with them i'll ask them
[14:38] what do you want and some people don't
[14:40] know what they want
[14:42] they want
[14:43] yeah they want money they say i want
[14:45] money and i say but if i give you a
[14:47] million euros a day what would that do
[14:49] and they say oh i pay my bills
[14:53] i was not buying this camera then what
[14:55] would you do after that what would you
[14:56] do and then they don't know
[14:58] it's because you know when you go from
[15:00] like what i said when you go from
[15:01] somebody that might be earning 500 000
[15:03] to go to somebody one that's earning a
[15:05] million
[15:06] it's two different it's two different
[15:08] mindsets so you know it's a journey you
[15:11] have to go through but when you've
[15:13] spoken to somebody or you deal with
[15:14] somebody that's already being there
[15:16] you're getting solid advice
[15:18] but you first have to decide what it is
[15:20] you want i always knew what i wanted and
[15:22] that's why that's what gets me up in the
[15:24] morning so that's why i find out off
[15:25] somebody else what is it you want do you
[15:27] want to earn that money yes okay well
[15:29] let's let's set up a road map let's
[15:31] guide you to that and then let's get the
[15:33] let the get the ball rolling you know
[15:35] put the road map in place and start
[15:36] giving you the guidance and then you can
[15:38] start to see your dreams come true
[15:40] and if you don't know what you want well
[15:42] then we sit down and we go well okay
[15:44] let's go back a few years let's go back
[15:47] 10 15 20 years what does he want to then
[15:50] and then the light bulb sometimes goes
[15:52] on he realizes actually i know what i
[15:53] want
[15:54] okay but the other thing you've got to
[15:56] remember is the reason why people don't
[15:58] know what they want
[15:59] is because they are all the time working
[16:02] on what they need
[16:04] i need to pay the bills i need to pay my
[16:06] car i need to pay my mortgage i need to
[16:08] pay the school fees you know i need to
[16:10] put a roof over my head
[16:12] so what happens is when you concentrate
[16:14] on what it is you need
[16:16] it it just becomes a habitual behavior
[16:19] day in and day out but when you start to
[16:21] concentrate on what you want and start
[16:23] working towards what you want well then
[16:25] you fill the needs
[16:28] the people who don't know what they want
[16:31] and i have seen many people i have seen
[16:34] my own aspiration that i know up to a
[16:37] certain point what i want
[16:39] and then after that that i did not know
[16:41] what i want and i spent last three years
[16:44] just circling around to figure out and
[16:46] that helped me but
[16:49] i've meet so many people i observe so
[16:51] many people who don't know what they
[16:53] want and and one of the reason that i
[16:56] realize is
[16:58] the way our culture is the way our
[17:00] we grew up
[17:02] in school
[17:05] for
[17:05] like
[17:06] 18 20 years
[17:09] we was looking at teacher for praise and
[17:12] uh we know that every year we're going
[17:13] to go to the next class and next class
[17:15] and then
[17:16] um when we
[17:18] we get out of the college start job
[17:21] we get into this cycle that
[17:24] this person has this type of car this
[17:26] person has this type of a house and
[17:29] that's what i want right i mean that's
[17:31] what everybody want and
[17:34] they go into the cycle for endless cycle
[17:37] and just like you said once they start
[17:39] buying these fancy thing they they go
[17:41] into the neat part that i need to earn
[17:44] this much so i can pay off this so the
[17:46] cycle
[17:49] unknowingly knowing unknowingly we trap
[17:52] into the cycle and we don't even
[17:54] know
[17:56] what we want and many people are in that
[17:58] cycle
[18:00] and i wish if somebody can help or a
[18:04] global
[18:06] phenomenon that can help them that
[18:09] these are the seven things these are the
[18:11] 10 things that you should do at this age
[18:13] or this age that you know at least you
[18:17] start working toward it to know uh or at
[18:20] least recognize that you don't really
[18:21] know what you want you're just going
[18:23] after something but
[18:26] there are so much help
[18:29] once you know what you want
[18:31] there's so much help right you you you
[18:34] know how to to break into goals you know
[18:36] how to to achieve your goals and there's
[18:38] so much
[18:40] you could do once you figure out
[18:43] what you want but the process to
[18:45] figuring out what you really want
[18:48] um is
[18:50] not the defined
[18:52] so there there is actually another
[18:54] process you can use when you're trying
[18:55] to figure out what it is you want
[18:57] you see you've got to remember that
[18:59] everything that we do we're caught up in
[19:00] our paradigms we're kind of in our
[19:02] habitual state you know we get up at the
[19:03] same time we go to bed at the same time
[19:05] we go into our kitchen or we go into our
[19:07] living room we sit in the same chair you
[19:09] know we watch tv in the same position if
[19:11] somebody if we came into the room and
[19:13] somebody was sitting in our chair we're
[19:15] uncomfortable so we asked them to move
[19:17] why because it's our chair
[19:20] so what's happening is we get caught up
[19:21] in the habitual state so when you
[19:23] realize that you i suppose leave high
[19:26] school and you know you get to your
[19:29] uh do your your exams or whatever and
[19:31] you're happy with them and then you get
[19:32] married you have kids you get a house
[19:34] you get a car and now you're competing
[19:36] with everybody else like what you
[19:37] mentioned you know
[19:40] stupid is a brand new standard oh well
[19:43] i'm going to have to buy a course down
[19:44] the road right a better car i'm buying a
[19:46] ferrari you know and it becomes a
[19:48] competition
[19:49] and now you're trying to find the money
[19:51] to do it the need the need whereas if
[19:53] you were to sit down and sit back and
[19:55] actually think about what it is you want
[19:57] and what i mean by that is outside of
[19:59] the bubble so why i say the bubble is
[20:01] because our habitual behaviors are
[20:03] inside the bubble so it's a bit like
[20:04] when you go away in holidays what
[20:06] happens
[20:07] you're in a completely different frame
[20:09] of mind you're laughing you're genuine
[20:12] yeah exactly and that's because you're
[20:14] in a higher state of vibration you're
[20:16] not in your habitual state
[20:18] so they're they're the times when you
[20:20] should be
[20:21] even able to think about more you know
[20:23] you might see something you say oh my
[20:25] god i love that car oh my god i've
[20:26] always wanted a car like that i'm gonna
[20:28] do it that's what i want
[20:30] you see and then you go back home and
[20:31] you get back in your bubble and you get
[20:33] back to your days work and you forget
[20:34] about the car and you forget about all
[20:36] these things that you're going to do but
[20:37] the difference is if they excite you
[20:39] well then that's what you should work
[20:41] towards
[20:43] yeah so it really is it's it's about
[20:46] sitting down and looking at what we call
[20:48] the abc
[20:50] you know
[20:51] an a is something that you do
[20:54] and you know you can do
[20:56] and b is something that
[20:59] you might
[21:00] think you need it but you'll do it
[21:01] anyway whereas the seagull is something
[21:04] big so that might be where i'm on 500
[21:06] thousand i want to earn a million but
[21:08] what most people do is come to goals is
[21:10] they might say i'm on 500 000 and i'm
[21:13] going to earn 550 000 next year why
[21:15] because that's comfortable 50 grand
[21:17] that's no problem yeah so what'll happen
[21:19] is sometimes the economy will get better
[21:21] you'll earn a 50 grand you think you've
[21:22] reached your goal yeah i got my goal
[21:25] well actually you didn't it didn't
[21:26] really make it that happy it didn't get
[21:28] you by bed in the morning but when you
[21:30] start to create the once and what you
[21:32] want and you start working towards it
[21:33] and you build a roadmap around that well
[21:36] now you're excited every day getting up
[21:38] out of bed you know it's hard to keep
[21:39] you down because now you're starting to
[21:41] see that life is much better now the i
[21:44] the the whole idea is keeping on that
[21:47] um
[21:49] almost like the
[21:50] the level or vibration of the goal and
[21:53] that's the key it's all about being
[21:56] comfortable being uncomfortable
[21:58] and when you're comfortable being
[21:59] uncomfortable well then you can stay in
[22:02] the high vibration and you start hitting
[22:04] major goals almost like quantum leaps
[22:06] start to happen
[22:08] well that quantum leap is i guess it's
[22:12] way higher heavy board than i can
[22:15] um yeah i can't believe you know that's
[22:17] that's when you make a a big a big jump
[22:20] a major jump and you know it's a book
[22:22] called uh u-square
[22:24] and uh christ's picture it's very good
[22:28] he talks about quantum leaps you know
[22:30] and he talks about a fly in a room and
[22:32] the fly comes in and it's trying to get
[22:34] out you know to the window and it's
[22:36] beating off the window banging banging
[22:38] back and forward and then eventually it
[22:40] gets exhausted and dies but yet 10 feet
[22:43] behind it the doors open
[22:45] you know it could have flown out the
[22:47] door and gone to freedom but why because
[22:49] it wasn't looking at that it was looking
[22:52] in the wrong direction and that's what
[22:54] people do
[22:55] that's why i was saying mindset is 95
[22:58] strategy is 5
[23:00] but most people do the opposite way
[23:03] they have 95 strategy 5 mindset they're
[23:06] not thinking about the solutions they're
[23:08] thinking about the problem
[23:11] you you recently started youtube right i
[23:14] saw your youtube as well and you've been
[23:16] consistently posting there so
[23:19] very happy about that
[23:21] yeah so it's it's very much i suppose
[23:24] when
[23:25] when i talk about um as i said a few
[23:28] years ago i had a bad self-image
[23:30] you know so that was the reason why i
[23:32] couldn't scale my business i used to
[23:34] blame everybody else like what i said
[23:36] everything that's going on in the
[23:37] exterior world
[23:39] is a direct replication of what's going
[23:40] on internally
[23:42] so i used to blame everybody else and
[23:44] then when i was introduced to all this
[23:46] material and i realized that in fact i
[23:48] was the problem with not everybody else
[23:50] well then i was able to change that
[23:52] and of course then it made me more
[23:53] comfortable being in front of a camera
[23:55] and when i became more comfortable in
[23:56] front of a camera i became me and i
[23:59] could you know when somebody asked me a
[24:00] question i could give a straight answer
[24:02] whereas if you'd asked me this question
[24:04] maybe six years ago i'd be stumbling to
[24:07] give you an answer because i'd be more
[24:09] concerned about how i looked or you know
[24:11] what what i was going to say
[24:14] so yeah youtube already started recently
[24:16] it's uh you know i've i've been
[24:18] concentrating on mainly clients but but
[24:20] now i'm starting to open up into to all
[24:22] areas of platforms i have so much
[24:24] information that i wanted to share i
[24:26] have all the ah and um comes into the
[24:29] play just like what you're saying
[24:31] um when i'm trying to record myself
[24:34] just me myself
[24:37] yeah so
[24:38] you know again when we look at
[24:41] our self-image and we can change our
[24:43] self-image
[24:44] you can reinvent yourself to be whatever
[24:46] you want
[24:47] because you're you through your
[24:49] ancestors and as you were growing up
[24:51] that's what you developed
[24:53] so you know you may be similar to your
[24:54] mom your dad your brothers your sisters
[24:56] you'll talk you'll walk you'll eat
[24:58] you'll drink you'll sleep very same as
[24:59] them
[25:00] but if we want to be different and and
[25:02] i'm i am very different than my brothers
[25:05] and sisters and because i have a passion
[25:07] and desire for business and they didn't
[25:09] have the same passion
[25:11] and so i am almost created my my
[25:14] own self-image of who i wanted to be and
[25:17] that's that's what we can do so you know
[25:20] if if i wanted to be a confident
[25:22] individual well then that's what i've
[25:24] done i created my staff image around my
[25:26] confidence
[25:27] but but what i have to
[25:29] point out here is that
[25:30] i had two personalities for many years
[25:34] because i had the personality when i was
[25:35] the businessman and then i had the
[25:37] personality when i was at home
[25:39] and there were two different people
[25:40] whereas now i'm the same person i i
[25:43] don't you know i don't have to be false
[25:45] i don't have to put on you know that i'm
[25:47] a great businessman i don't have to do
[25:48] it anymore but that's because i had a
[25:50] bad self-image so it's it's about being
[25:53] uh you know being you
[25:54] very i can relate it to like 100
[25:58] um my journey was
[26:01] when i became manager or even before
[26:03] when i wanted to become a manager i was
[26:07] putting the show that
[26:09] i am in this role and i have to act and
[26:12] behave like this
[26:13] and that go on for many years
[26:17] and then just like how you said
[26:20] how i was managing my kids and how i was
[26:23] managing my team is completely different
[26:25] things
[26:27] and how i live and behave and think when
[26:30] i'm alone
[26:32] and how i act when i'm in uh in my
[26:35] office was completely different and i
[26:38] realized that first when i was doing
[26:41] myers-bridge
[26:42] that's a personality check
[26:45] and i started thinking
[26:47] how do i answer these questions if i
[26:50] answer these questions as
[26:52] what i do for my full-time job
[26:56] answers are different
[26:57] i'm very organized big planner if i if i
[27:01] answer them based on how i act when i'm
[27:04] alone
[27:05] it's different
[27:06] so that's when i realized but
[27:09] fortunately so far i was able to blend
[27:12] um them together and i i was able to act
[27:16] more natural initially and even now um i
[27:20] am okay
[27:22] to speak the way i speak
[27:24] versus uh previously i was trying to act
[27:29] like a i'm somebody
[27:31] i act like a professional versus the
[27:34] person that i am now
[27:36] that's it it's getting comfortable being
[27:37] yourself so you know yeah
[27:40] you'd have to like you before you can
[27:42] really really like anybody else that's
[27:45] what i was down to because when you
[27:48] start to like who you are uh your
[27:50] personality and how you you look and how
[27:53] you talk and how you walk well then you
[27:55] know it doesn't matter what anybody else
[27:56] thinks because if they if they're
[27:58] thinking about you that means they've
[28:00] got a problem with them
[28:02] because you need to be thinking about
[28:04] you
[28:04] and even on our own personal perspective
[28:07] you don't like yourself but you're
[28:09] expecting other people likes you
[28:11] right i mean that's the big
[28:13] contradiction
[28:15] you're trying to show off that so that
[28:16] other people likes you versus and but
[28:19] inside you you know that something is
[28:21] missing
[28:23] yeah so like it's very much a case of
[28:24] when we look at our mental faculties you
[28:26] know perception reason will intuition
[28:29] memory you know we've got to remember
[28:31] that we can develop skills so that first
[28:33] of all you start to like you for being
[28:35] you and then if you pick up like what
[28:37] you said with the intuition and you pick
[28:39] up that somebody may dislike you well
[28:41] you can use your mental faculties to
[28:43] allow them to to hone into you so it's
[28:46] almost like gratitude you know leaving
[28:49] someone with a sense of increase you
[28:51] know if you if i pick somebody dislikes
[28:53] me you know
[28:55] i talk to them and say something nicely
[28:57] you know i bring them on board and if
[28:59] they like me well there's nothing i can
[29:00] do about that but i will try i aim to
[29:03] use my mental faculties my communication
[29:06] skills
[29:06] whereas many years ago
[29:08] you know they didn't like me i didn't
[29:09] care well it's tough whatever good luck
[29:12] i don't want to talk to you get out of
[29:13] the room you know what are you doing
[29:14] here whereas now i'll go out of my way
[29:17] to
[29:18] you know leave
[29:19] somebody
[29:22] with a sense of increase
[29:27] what it'll do is if you say something to
[29:28] somebody so i'll give an example when
[29:30] somebody is in um a mode of i suppose
[29:34] south wallowing you know like oh my god
[29:36] it always happens to me and i'm sick of
[29:37] this and oh dude you know this the whole
[29:39] world but when you find somebody's in
[29:41] that state either say something go and
[29:43] do something for somebody go and do
[29:45] something out of your heart buy somebody
[29:46] a cup of coffee that you don't know and
[29:48] watch what happens
[29:50] your vibration will go through the roof
[29:52] because you've done something outside of
[29:54] it and what will that do it'll raise
[29:56] your vibration from low to high and then
[29:59] it'll put you in good form
[30:01] and the same thing happens when you
[30:03] pass a compliment to somebody when you
[30:05] say something nice to somebody
[30:07] especially somebody you don't like
[30:09] because what will happen is that it'll
[30:10] raise your confidence it will also raise
[30:15] them think oh my god what was that all
[30:16] about who will feel so good about it so
[30:19] not only have you made them feel good
[30:21] you've made yourself feel good so it's a
[30:23] double the double-ended sword for a good
[30:25] body
[30:29] so barry you could have been changing
[30:31] the topic um
[30:32] to go on you could have done so many
[30:35] things you started with business you
[30:38] probably have done a few other
[30:39] businesses
[30:41] how did you land into this business
[30:43] so i started off in in chem dry
[30:46] about 18 years of age i ran that for 10
[30:49] years and i then decided to set up with
[30:52] that and move on to the security
[30:53] business um
[30:55] up to about four years ago we were doing
[30:57] about 1 million 1.2 million and then we
[30:59] grew that
[31:00] in the last four years up to 2 million
[31:03] and but
[31:04] whilst i i have lost the passion and
[31:07] desire to run that because i've got
[31:09] caught up in the 18 and 20 hours a day
[31:12] and i certainly don't put in them hours
[31:14] anymore but what it has allowed me to do
[31:16] is to grow myself and so
[31:20] i ended up where i started to teach
[31:22] people how i did it
[31:24] and how i became a seven figure owner of
[31:27] business and of course how they could
[31:29] avoid what happened to me all the
[31:32] problems in the middle that people can
[31:33] now avoid to get there
[31:35] right and of course it makes it easier
[31:37] for them and as well as that then you
[31:40] know i show people systems and guidance
[31:43] mentorship
[31:44] and of course a roadmap of how they too
[31:48] can get there without having to the
[31:50] difficulties that that i encountered
[31:55] that's a quite a journey
[31:58] yeah like i would say in the early part
[32:00] it was probably a roller coaster because
[32:02] it was always expanding every business i
[32:04] was into was always expanding whereas
[32:06] now well like any business is a roller
[32:08] coaster but it's a more defined road map
[32:12] now i know what i want and not what i
[32:14] need
[32:15] you know so i'm now chasing and
[32:17] believing what i can do i've eliminated
[32:19] or eradicated some way unlimiting
[32:21] beliefs that allows me now to expand and
[32:25] in many ways about health and happiness
[32:29] when when you figure this that this is
[32:32] what you will do moving forward
[32:36] i wanted to give what would the process
[32:38] look like how did you figure that
[32:41] the change
[32:43] and so initially what happened was when
[32:45] i looked at uh the problems in my life
[32:49] and they were problems and they were
[32:52] escalating quite rapidly um as i
[32:54] mentioned between high court actions
[32:56] relationship issues with my children my
[32:59] wife and
[33:01] things going on in my own head
[33:03] i started to drink lots of alcohol and
[33:07] you know every day was a problem
[33:09] and and you know bad thoughts were
[33:12] coming into my mind you know what what
[33:13] was i doing this for what was i getting
[33:15] up every day for what was the world you
[33:17] know doing to me what was the problem
[33:19] why am i bothering you know what's this
[33:21] all about and it when it got to that
[33:24] stage then it was like it was all over
[33:26] what's the point in carrying on and then
[33:30] when
[33:31] uh i realized one morning one sunday it
[33:34] was like
[33:35] one o'clock i was still in bed and i
[33:37] have to be now drinking heavily the
[33:38] night before
[33:40] and i'd realized i said like
[33:41] when was there a time when i was
[33:43] actually happy how was it come to all
[33:45] this
[33:46] and then i reflected back i reflected
[33:48] back when i was 17 and 18 driving around
[33:51] in my vehicle listening to napoleon hill
[33:55] and earl nightingale and bob proctor and
[33:58] and i remember saying i know so much of
[34:00] this stuff i should teach it
[34:03] and then a light bulb went down and oh
[34:05] my god
[34:06] that's what i need to do
[34:08] i need to i need to start getting into
[34:09] personal development i can help people
[34:12] don't i don't want people to end up
[34:14] where i am and i'm sure there's lots and
[34:16] then as i started to look at it that's
[34:18] exactly what we stumbled across that you
[34:20] know the entrepreneur
[34:22] is can be a lonely journey
[34:24] and
[34:25] people can feel segregated as a result
[34:28] of that
[34:28] but when you
[34:30] when you reach out nobody is going to
[34:31] tell you they have a problem
[34:33] but when you reach out to people and you
[34:36] know
[34:37] tell them or explain to them well then
[34:38] they can connect with you and then of
[34:40] course
[34:41] it allows you then to be able to help
[34:42] them in some way
[34:45] very it's a
[34:47] 58. i know you said you have a coaching
[34:50] call
[34:52] yeah no don't worry it's fine a couple
[34:54] of minutes won't work yeah no problem
[34:57] okay
[34:58] you you have so much wisdom you have so
[35:01] much knowledge
[35:03] and i know you just started with twitter
[35:06] and i started like four weeks ago
[35:10] um but there are so much community there
[35:12] there's so much so many people um the
[35:16] way it work is where you share a
[35:19] lot of information just like what you're
[35:21] sharing here but more the written format
[35:24] more on the thread twitter thread format
[35:26] and then
[35:28] you build a community of people there i
[35:31] will share some of the reference some of
[35:33] the some of the things that i have
[35:34] learned um
[35:36] even uh hopefully that will give you a
[35:38] jump to start but i think you will find
[35:41] a lot of people that you can help there
[35:44] and there are twitter spaces as well
[35:47] where you will be able to speak and and
[35:50] connect with so many people
[35:52] yeah for sure look i really appreciate
[35:55] you know you taking the time out to you
[35:57] know ask me these questions and i i have
[36:00] a passion now you know for helping
[36:02] people and that's why
[36:04] you know when i'm offered to jump on
[36:06] something like this i love to share
[36:08] not that i expect anything in return for
[36:11] it but just you know somebody out there
[36:14] can can hear it and and almost connect
[36:17] to it and go oh my god it is possible
[36:20] you can i can have what i want in life
[36:22] and you can that's the reality
[36:25] so with the time um
[36:27] we'll
[36:29] jump directly into what's your message
[36:31] for the audience and my audience are
[36:33] people who are in the early career or
[36:35] entrepreneurship or
[36:38] business who are trying to determine how
[36:41] their next 5 10 50 years look like
[36:45] 20 years not 15.
[36:47] yeah
[36:48] yeah well the first thing i would say is
[36:50] start to look at what you do
[36:53] start to look at your paradigms
[36:55] what is your paradigm surrounding so
[36:58] when we talk about paradigms we're
[36:59] talking about our habits our habitual
[37:01] habits our daily habitual currencies
[37:04] because what you got to remember is that
[37:06] you could have paradigms around money so
[37:07] you might want to earn a lot of money
[37:09] but it's never going to happen
[37:11] if you have a paradigm around money and
[37:13] that's like when somebody wins the
[37:14] lottery you find in a very short period
[37:16] of time they end up back to the way they
[37:18] were why because they weren't
[37:21] used to it they didn't know how to
[37:23] utilize how to
[37:25] use it or spend it in a way to develop
[37:28] their life so the first thing i would
[37:29] say is look at your habitual behaviors
[37:31] look at your habits and start to develop
[37:33] the skills that you need or require
[37:36] look for a mentor or a guide that can
[37:39] give you the right information and guide
[37:41] you in the right direction that can help
[37:43] you
[37:44] i suppose multiply your results in many
[37:46] different ways because if you want to
[37:48] earn
[37:49] your yearly salary and a monthly salary
[37:51] it's possible but it's just you don't
[37:53] think like that at the moment so you've
[37:55] got to change your mindset skills and
[37:57] don't give up you know don't give up
[37:59] persistence is the key as napoleon hill
[38:01] says persistence you've got to be
[38:03] persistent in everything you do you're
[38:05] going to have good days you're going to
[38:06] have bad days but you remember if you're
[38:09] in a high vibration the good days are
[38:11] going to far away the bad days and
[38:13] that's what the important thing is
[38:16] well thank you so much very do you have
[38:18] any question for me
[38:20] no no i really enjoy your questioning
[38:25] thank you
[38:36] you